I was Trump-tolerant right up until the November 2020 election. But his refusal to concede was unacceptable, in my view. I make a strong distinction between disliking the electoral process and refusing to accept the electoral outcome.
I should point out that I had the exact same reaction in 2000. I actually voted for Al Gore, but as soon as he challenged the Florida results I turned against him. I have hated him ever since. My visceral reaction is to treat challenging an electoral outcome as selfish and destructive.
A statesman in Mr. Trump’s position would have called for a bipartisan commission to suggest reforms to the electoral process to make it more reliable and to enable more rapid, secure counting of votes. Improve the process, but don’t try to overturn the results.
My concern with Mr. Trump centers around the issue of personal loyalty. He appears to me to demand unquestioning loyalty. If you express such loyalty, you can be a knave or a fool and still earn his support (“fine people”). If you fail to express such loyalty, he will cast you aside as cruelly as he possibly can.
I watch 0 television, so I had never seen Mr. Trump until I watched his talk at CPAC this year. I was put off by the narcissism of his remarks. But what really disturbed me was the intensity of the cheering of his supporters. These were not farmers and blue-collar workers doing the cheering, which probably would have disturbed me less. They were affluent, white-collar urbanites, who should have been taught to treat politics with some degree of detachment.
My wife often says that she fears charismatic leaders. She was bothered by people who worshipped Barack Obama. I believe that she is right that everyone should have a healthy skepticism of political leaders. But I think that it is even more important for leaders themselves to be able to accept that other people treat them as fallible. Mr. Trump struck me as the very opposite in that regard.
Mr. Trump’s supporters fault other Republican leaders for being too elitist or too conciliatory. Those complaints are often valid. But I would rather look for a different leader who is empathetic with ordinary voters and is willing to take firm stands that are unpopular inside the Beltway. But we should look for someone who does not possess such a single-minded focus on personal loyalty.